Holidays with kids are a lot like camping: it sounds relaxing in theory, but by day two you’re Googling return train times, wishing you’d packed less…and more.
If you’re a parent — especially a dad with a toddler or two — chances are you’ve come back from a “holiday” needing another break. But family holidays don’t have to be exhausting. With the right mindset, practical prep, and a little flexibility, you can actually enjoy it.
Here’s how to survive a family holiday without losing your mind — from a dad who’s made most of the mistakes, so you don’t have to.
1. Lower your expectations (just a bit)
Let’s start here. This won’t be the trip where you read three novels, sip cocktails uninterrupted, or “find yourself.” You’re parenting in a different postcode. Once you make peace with that, you’ll enjoy it more.
Dad truth: The joy isn’t in the relaxation — it’s in the memories. They might come with chaos, but they’re yours.
2. Divide responsibilities before you go
Nothing starts an argument faster than unspoken assumptions. Who’s packing the travel cot? Who’s driving? Who’s watching the toddler at the airport?
Have a pre-trip chat with your partner:
✅ Who does what during travel?
✅ Who packs for whom?
✅ How will you split the childcare while away?
Clear plans mean fewer snappy moments mid-flight.
3. Pack light — but smart
You will pack too much. Everyone does. But aim for:
- Clothes that mix and match
- Fewer toys (they won’t play with them)
- One “emergency boredom breaker”
- Essential meds (you won’t find Calpol in the Alps)
And pack a small “first night” bag with PJs, toothbrushes, and essentials in case you’re too shattered to unpack properly on arrival.
4. Choose accommodation that fits your reality
Sounds obvious, but what worked pre-kids won’t work now. Things to look for:
- Ground floor if you’ve got a runner
- Kitchen or kitchenette
- Space to separate sleeping kids (or yourself for a breather)
- Washing machine (if away for more than 4 days)
And if it’s a hotel, find one where noise isn’t a problem. You don’t want to feel like your toddler’s tantrum is ruining someone’s honeymoon.
5. Don’t overfill your days
It’s tempting to make a dream itinerary: beach in the morning, museum after lunch, dinner out every night.
But with kids, one main thing per day is plenty. Everything else is a bonus.
Downtime matters. Poolside naps, slow mornings, and unscheduled afternoons often make the best memories.
6. Snacks solve almost everything
Hungry kids = angry kids. Take snacks everywhere. Even to breakfast.
We keep a stash of:
- Raisin boxes
- Cereal bars
- Bananas (grab one at the hotel)
- Breadsticks
- “Holiday treats” (new snacks = novelty = distraction)
Pro tip: pack resealable sandwich bags. You’ll use them more than you think.
7. Plan solo time (for both of you)
You and your partner both need time off, even on holiday. One takes the kids for a walk, the other reads a book. One naps, the other hits the pool.
Take turns. Be generous. Nobody wins when both of you are burnt out by day three.
8. Screen time is fine — you’re on holiday too
Look, we all try to limit screens. But if a bit of CBeebies or a downloaded film lets you sit on a balcony with a cold beer and a view, that’s not lazy — that’s strategic.
Relax the rules. You’re not failing. You’re surviving (and possibly even enjoying it).
9. Set your comeback plan in motion early
Re-entry is rough. Toddlers are overtired, the laundry pile is scary, and your inbox is worse.
Plan your return like a mini-mission:
- Come back on a Saturday, not Sunday night
- Order a food shop to arrive when you do
- Unpack straight into the laundry basket
This makes Monday slightly less painful.
10. Capture moments — but live them first
You’ll want photos. Just don’t spend the whole trip behind your phone. Capture a few key moments — sandy toes, ice cream faces, sunset hugs — then put it away.
The real magic is in being there. Tantrums, giggles, sunburn and all.
Final Thoughts from The Sorted Dad
Family holidays aren’t about perfection. They’re about connection.
Sure, it might not be relaxing in the traditional sense — but one day you’ll look back at the chaos and remember the little things: your kid’s first paddle in the sea, the sandcastle that fell down three times, the sleepy car ride home.
Surviving a holiday with your family isn’t about doing it all. It’s about doing what matters — and laughing through the bits that don’t go to plan.
So take a breath, pack the wet wipes, and enjoy the ride.
The Sorted Dad 
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